Dr. Lilly Jay

Dr. Lilly Jay is a licensed clinical psychologist who combines warmth and humor with expertise in child development, perinatal mental health and helping adolescents, men, and women navigate life transitions. Her patients appreciate both feeling deeply and thinking critically alongside someone invested in their growth. 

Dr. Jay completed advanced training and a postdoctoral fellowship dedicated to treating parents navigating infertility, welcoming a child with a severe medical diagnosis, recovering from a traumatic birth, or grieving the loss of a child. Even in the absence of hardship, pregnancy and parenthood in and of itself can be as destabilizing as it is beautiful; Dr. Jay is a certified perinatal mental health counselor (PMH-C) with years of experience treating perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADS). She has a deep understanding of the impact of pregnancy and postpartum on mental health, women’s health issues, and the often-overlooked changes related to perimenopause and menopause.

Dr. Jay supports new families throughout the postpartum period and the first decade of a child’s life and into adolescence, when children develop lifelong models of relating to themselves and others. Drawing on extensive experience, Dr. Jay uses play to help children overcome fears and anxieties, improve their social skills, and manage their moods. She values parents as important collaborators in the therapeutic process. Dr. Jay’s expertise also includes therapy for adolescents, college students and young adults. Driven by the belief that life transitions naturally invite reflection on the past, she supports patients in thinking critically and creatively about how to update old strategies for relating to themselves and others.

With unique training in both evidence-based approaches like CBT and DBT, as well as psychoanalytic therapy, Dr. Jay is able to collaborate with patients to find a treatment that best suits their needs. Her research interests include grief, maternal identity development, and parental attachment.